I love Sex and the City but never got into it until I moved to NYC. Then it was like I suddenly "got it". Not to say I was running all over the city with men having sex all the time like Samantha or any of the other girls on the show but it was a mind set and mentality that I understood.

Now that I am back in California, as much as I still love the show, I have started thinking, "Why are so many women wrapped in the idea of finding Mr. Right?" Most of us love the idea of finding the right person to spend the remainder of our lives with but I think we are obsessed with it and it's not just here in the states but all over the world. This is such an obsession that I meet women all the time who would rather settle for Mr. Not Quite Right than to risk being alone and single. I find that sad.

I don't think people realise the joy of being single. Sure it's hard because we all want companionship but there is so much we can do as single persons that I think singledom is overlooked. The world considers it a horrible thing but God's word says otherwise (can't find the verses at the moment) but claims it is a gift to be single. That God can do wonderous things with the single person.

Having spent at least 1/2 my life in a relationship of sort until I finally stepped back and focused on being single and healing, I can honestly say being single is a gift. I do desire for companionship but there is so much God can do with me that I think at this point I would only "settle" for someone who is my friend first, a partner in life, and together we are greater than we ever were apart.